I’m reading Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset, for class. It’s pretty interesting. A quote about praise for children:
"Listen for the messages in the following examples:
"You learned that so quickly! You’re so smart!"
"Look at that drawing. Martha, is he the next Picasso or what?"
"You’re so brilliant, you got an A without even studying!"
If you’re like most parents, you hear these as supportive, esteem-boosting messages. But listen more closely. See if you can hear another message. It’s the one that children hear:
If I don’t learn something quickly, I’m not smart.
I shouldn’t try drawing anything hard or they’ll see I’m no Picasso.
I’d better quit studying or they won’t think I’m brilliant.
The book is about having a fixed or growth mindset. With more context, the example above makes a better, really good, case. Lots of examples about general things like relationships, business, education, etc.
How do you use praise? Remember that praising children’s intelligence or talent, tempting as it is, sends a fixed-mindset message. It makes their confidence and motivation more fragile. Instead, try to focus on the process they used - their strategies, effort, or choice. Practice working the process praise into your interactions with your children.
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